I have been
recommending Bob Grant's books for many years, and I've received
MANY emails from women who have let me know their results from
putting Bob's advice into practice.
I'll share those in a
moment, but I have to ask:
Do you ever
wonder if other people go through the same kinds of thoughts and
feelings that you do, or are you just plain crazy?
If you asked a therapist, you'd find out that the answer is YES,
they do, and NO, you're not crazy.
Do therapists have special insight into what gets in the way of a
good relationship? Many of them have a particular interest in
relationships - and probably all of them hear about MAINLY
relationships, whether we're talking about marriages, families, or
dating.
I often talk here about author and therapist Bob Grant, who wrote
"The Woman Men Adore and Never Want to Leave."
www.thewomanmenadore.com
I'm really interested in therapy in general. Having met therapists
in many situations, I think personally that when you want to seek a
therapist, it's good to find one that you truly trust and think
highly of - otherwise, keep looking.
Therapy is "hard work" but it's also nice to have someone who
listens and who treats you with "unconditional positive regard" -
most of us don't have someone who can let us jabber on for an hour.
I think there are times in life when a person really needs to TALK
to someone.
There
recently has been a television series about therapy - "In Treatment"
- I was riveted to the show most of the time. I didn't have
HBO but I'd caught the show at hotels here and there. So I ordered
it and it was like a book that you can't put down.
That show made it clear that "you're not alone" if you've been
through troubling, painful times. I think "In Treatment" is more
than just a TV milestone; it can help people have more compassion
for others, and it can help to put life in better perspective.
In this series, you see the human experience from the outside in a
way that you can both relate to the person who is doing the talking
as well as the person who is listening, and see the effect of the
thoughts and actions on both people.
By the way... Highly emotionally laden communication should NOT
happen by email - it should be done by phone or in person, according
to John Freeman, author of "The Tyranny of Email."
So remember what I always say and do not send him that LONG and
UPSET email EVER - he had to do enough HOMEWORK in high school...
reading an email like that is like reading a term paper, only worse.
Bob Grant always provides the man's point of view, which is not
always easy to see - especially when a man is not responding to you
the way you want.
Here's an email I received about Bob's book:
Dear Mimi:
I wanted to write you to tell you thank you for recommending Bob
Grant's book.
My story: I was recently engaged to a man who broke up with me.
Actually, I did everything wrong when I saw that he was pulling away
right before the breakup and I caused the breakup to happen... and I
did everything wrong in the week following the breakup... such as
emailing him.
A phrase in Bob's book turned everything around for me... that plus
the invaluable
insight
into how a man thinks. Everything in the book rang so true!
So I emailed him one last time. I did exactly what Bob said. Two
weeks later, he called (just as the book said he would). I continued
to do what the book said.
He actually complained that I was "playing hard to get"!
We began to see each other again slowly and I continued to reread
the book.
At first, I was doing the things recommended in the book as an
experiment. Now, I like things so much the way they are that I do
not want to change a thing.
By the way, my guy asked me today to run off and marry him. It's
driving him crazy that I am so independent and no longer "needy."
Thank you! Thank you! Thank you!
-- "Happier!"
Mimi,
Thanks for this timely reminder! You seem to share this bit of
wisdom from Bob Grant right when I need it most. I don't know why I
do it, but ever so often I do start expecting the impossible from my
precious man - the love of my life for nearly four years now. Thank
you both and keep it coming!
K.
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Mimi,
I have read two of Bob's books and I must say that the advice really
does work. (I also had the free consultation that was offered when I
bought the e-books) How to get him back and the Woman Men Adore are
the books that I have read and actually USED the advice that Bob
gave me. Long story, short:
I had been
dating a great man, the relationship was wonderful. Out of the blue;
bam! He wants to take a break. (Got Bob's book and followed the
advice from How to get him back) He started calling and texting me,
just like Bob said. I let him back in slowly; letting him look but
not touch, so to speak. Before too long, he wanted to talk about us
dating exclusively! We are and have been in an exclusive
relationship for months now! The book, Woman Men Adore and never
want to leave, still comes in handy! Just recently my boyfriend
acted very selfish and thoughtless and that behavior happens to be
on my non-negotiable list. I told him in a very soft voice, yet
firm, that there was no room in my life for that behavior. I told
him to think about it and see if this was something that he could
change. I didn't see him for a couple of days but, spoke with him
via text or email. The replies from me were nice but distant. (This
is all in Bob's book) This is the email that he sent to me after a
couple of days!
"D., I am more than happy to talk about your needs and
non-negotiables. You are stunningly beautiful, inside and out. It is
my dumb luck to have met someone as wonderful as you. As flawed as I
may be and even if our relationship is not perfect, I cannot imagine
my life without you in it. I do not know how to solve every problem
and I frequently make mistakes but I am willing to work because you
are worth it. I do love you even if I do not always show it."
WOW! Just wanted to share!
D.
www.thewomanmenadore.com
www.bringyourloveback.com
www.husbandcantresist.com
